Hey all there,
It is going to be almost a year i have written something here. If i am going to say i dont find time to write things then i am sure that i am making fool of myself. It just shows that i was not able to manage my time because i have started assuming new responsibilities professionally and personally. I think this is enough about me for the moment and i straight away jump to the topic.
When i arrived India from brussels - i heard this word from most of my relatives and friends - "You have settled what else?". After hearing this i said to myself "Come on. What on earth i have done makes them to say like this?". Just one thing - I made some money plus i got promoted. So this forms the core of the topic.
Question is: Does bank balance indicates that you are settled? Does promotion to higher role indicates that you are settled? What does settling in life means in common to all?
Before dwelling deep into these questions just a point.
If you have watched schindlers list movie - you would have already got my point. He never satisfies in adding people to his list - helping them out from the military reign by giving decent jobs to polish people. There is a beautiful dialog which schindlers accountant says at the end of the movie. But at this moment i dont know the dialog by heart but it is something like he becomes close to god as he has served some 6000 odd people by providing them basic needs. The catch here is till that dialog the movie moves like schindler is the person who is interested in making only money and doesnt have heart for others. After this dialog schindler himself realises that he has some how played a significant role in deciding fate of others people and shed his tears of happiness. That was a touching moment for him.
So coming back to the point. How settling in life related to above? It does not appear any where right? Thats the point. Until you dont see this term you will pursue towards next step in life. But once you start feeling the term then you may get stagnate. You will start feeling "why should i do this by risking my current happiness". May be you may start losing the big picture in your life. So the thought process might get changed.
So if you think of these points you can conclude that having bank balance, promotion etc seems to be elements to sustain in life and this settling should in no way hinder your future "risky" plans to grow more.
But the perception of common people is to avoid those "risky" plans and let your boat sail smooth till you live. There is a high possibility that they feed in these thoughts constantly to us which could make you get in their trap and veiling your growth oriented thoughts.
Summary: Never think that you are settled in life just by hearing the words of others. Your conscience tell you whether you settled or not. Go by your conscience and not by words of others. To me - "There is no intermediate state called settled in life till i have met my life time goal".
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You will never able to statisfy your inner goals which will ask for more all the time.
Have intermediate goals and acheive that and be content with your present status.
you were never been a big loser in your life???
i wont consider the loss as loss itself instead consider it as learning. And this way you wont loose anything but always gain.
Well written my dear friend! Really a serious topic which can be discussed without any conclusions till there is sun and moon! neither side would give up.
However on a lighter note.. I will tell you what is meant by settled in life.. it means you are capable of settling all the pending bills.. electricity, house rent, water, may be EMI for house, Car etc etc... makes sense isn't it? :) definitely you can't deny that you need bank balance and a secured job to afford these things!!! so that's what settled in Life is.
Now coming to taking risks and growing further in life.. Well da, everyone can't be a Schindler, a Hitler, a Ghandhi or a Washington or Columbus.
If you take example of a honey bee community, there is only a single queen bee in the comb, there are different roles for each category of bees. Imagine all bees in the comb are queen bees...we may not get honey at all.. all collectors.. then we may find no difference between honey and nector..all workers.. then we may not have flowers at all in the world.. as to get honey the combs would have to be build on the flowers to extract nector and make honey onsite.. no offshoring concept :). Just thinking out loud..
So everyone has got a distinct role in the society.. everyone is important. Just because someone wants to live a safe life without taking risks, doesn't mean he/she is less significant to the society than others. If all our parents had thought of similar things and had taken all the risks probably we would not have got the education that we got....
I am not contradicting any of your statements, if nature has chosen you to be the leader then so be it... and one should pursue that voice which is coming from within. The bottom line (too many Software industry words :) ) as I see it, is to recognize what category we fall into and pursue that. That how we would be able to make some meaning out of our lives.
Very important thing to achieve this is to understand what we are and do a SWOT analysis. Again software industry word "S"trength, "W"eakness "O"pportunities and "T"hreats. Be true to ourself we do not have to justify to anyone.
Outcome of SWOT analysis should clearly demarcate our personality traits and it would clearly tell us where we stand with respect to the present society. Yeah an important factor here is to understand the society itself.
Now we would know what is best place which can help us live a life at peace with ourself. We could also make a choice by pursuing a way of life which is totally opposite to our personality traits. But then we should consciously make an effort to change ourself to that way of life. The goal of all this is just one!
"Be at peace with yourself"
and the mantra to remember or having this in place is to understand one very important statement.....
"Life is all about making choices" Will write about this topic some other time.. I think this is a good one to read.. :)
Da do pass in your comments :)
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